Five Tips for Getting What you Want from Your Dating Experience
By Susie and Otto Collins, Relationship Coaches
If you ask most single people, they can probably tell you many tales of dates that have ended either in disaster or at the very least are unfulfilling. They would say that their dating experiences are usually not worth the effort and some even have given up hope that they will ever find a soul mate and have a soul mate experience.
Since there is so much anguish around the whole dating
topic, it may seem that the idea of finding a committed relationship and
marriage is like playing the slot machines at
Through working with many single people in our relationship coaching practice who want better dating experiences, we have identified eight tips to creating and having better dates.
With that being said, here are your five dating tips:
1. Don’t start dating someone with idea that you are going to have instant romance and be romantic with the person. Take the time to get to know them, establish relationship trust and connect with them as a person. Your dating experience will be much richer if you do.
2. There are many relationship challenges that keep couples from coming together and making a connection on a date. These challenges to love can come from the past and many people don’t have any idea how to make their new relationships better. It’s important to heal from past relationships by taking the time to figure out what went wrong and what your part was in the break up. That’s not to say that you blame yourself but rather you learn from the experience so that you won’t carry it into your new relationship.
3. If you had jealousy issues in your previous relationship, you need to learn how to overcome jealousy before you begin dating and move on to a new relationship. Many people believe that the problem will just fix itself but what we have found is that jealousy doesn’t fix itself. It shows up in new relationships over and over again until it’s overcome.
4. When or if the relationship moves into love making, it will be a lot more satisfying to both partners if there is a connection beforehand. In some cases, there is flirting and then the two people move into love making immediately. From what we have heard from our single clients, their experience would improve if they would focus on building their relationship instead of looking to the other person for the attention and love that they aren’t getting. Fantastic love making starts with a heart connection and this is where we suggest people begin to focus their attention.
5. A big dating challenge centers around infidelity. This usually happens when there is no stated agreement between the two people about whether they are monogamous or not. One or both people may have had affairs in their past relationships and those relationships may have ended in divorce. If their agreements are unclear in new relationships, they may repeat the pattern which usually ends the new relationship as well. Make sure you talk about this issue and put all of your cards on the table.
These dating tips are ones that will increase your personal growth and if you follow them, you will have a better dating experience. We are giving this free love advice and free relationship advice in the hope that you will have more successful, satisfying dates and relationships in the future.